Renewing Relationships with the Gottman Method
We are all social beings, wired for close connection to others.
Through relationships, we can experience the most exhilarating love and joy… as well as our darkest moments.
Our closest relationships can be a tremendous source of support, warmth, security, or, when things are not going well, anxiety, pain, and loneliness.
Relationships are like living, breathing beings…
So, they can grow and change over time… which makes them hard to navigate sometimes!
When relationships work well… when you feel as though you are part of a “we” and “us” team, it feels as though you can conquer the world! But when your relationships break down, it can feel as if your whole world is falling apart.
It’s normal to have ups and downs in a relationship, BUT…
When you don’t know what’s wrong and your partner always seems angry, you feel as though you’re always walking on eggshells… and you’re no longer on the same team.
You’re constantly arguing… can’t agree about the kids, the house, the in-laws…
So tired of being criticized, you never seem to do anything right. It’s easier to just not be around each other anymore… you never do anything fun together, anyway.
When you find yourself lying awake at night with that knot in your stomach, because you just don’t know what to do, where to turn…
There is hope!
Some issues that bring couples to therapy include, but are not limited to:
- Constant conflict and arguing
- Feeling emotionally distant, thinking about separating
- Poor communication
- Lack of sexual intimacy
- Blended family issues
- Infidelity
- Parenting
- Finances
Healing and reconnecting through the Gottman Method…
One of the things I love about using the Gottman Method is the use of a thorough relationship assessment and individualized plan. These tools help you identify not only what is going wrong in your relationship, but things that are going right. They provide specific, detailed feedback on your relationship.
Using the information gathered in the comprehensive assessment, I am able to provide a personalized treatment plan that is focused on your needs and goals for your relationship, using interventions and techniques that are grounded in science.
It’s time to take action!
Couples therapy is a safe place to express difficult feelings, identify and explore our most intimate concerns, and work together toward healing the relationship and experiencing renewed joy, greater well-being, and deeper love over time.
The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory.
The Sound Relationship House Theory posits that healthy relationships require a foundation of Building Love Maps, Sharing Fondness and Admiration, Turning Toward Instead of Away, The Positive Perspective, Managing Conflict, Making Life Dreams Come True, and Creating Shared Meaning. The foundation of this “house” is supported by strong walls of Trust and Commitment.
In your sessions…
I will use these tools and techniques to help you overcome criticism, defensiveness, and isolation… and build openness, intimacy, and connection.
I will provide a safe place to explore emotions and express concerns. You will learn skills and practices proven to restore and strengthen relationships, such as building friendship and emotional connection; improving sexual intimacy and satisfaction; conflict management; shared values, dreams, and goals; and rituals of connection.
This is for anyone… especially you!
Research has shown that Gottman Method therapy is effective for committed couples regardless of sexual orientation or socioeconomic, racial, or cultural background.
If you are struggling in your relationship, I can help. The time for building a loving connection that will last is now!
Call me today for your free consultation: (805) 556-5532